What To Do When Reality TV Rejects You

by Dan Gheesling

How-To-Get-On-Reality-TV-Dealing-With-RejectionYou’ve just poured your heart, soul, and dreams into the entire casting process and then you get the call (or e-mail).

It says: “We love you and think you are great for the show, but not this season.  Please re-apply next year!”

Your heart sinks into your stomach.

It’s tough to hear, but you will become better for it.

You’re not the only one who has heard this.  Many people who end up on Reality TV (@EvelDick, @Troy_Zan, @heavymetalteddy) have gotten numerous rejections before making it on.

They kept applying and getting better until they finally made it.  The key is to make sure you do improve each time through casting and not let one call ruin your dreams.

The dream of getting on Reality TV is not easy to accomplish.  If it was, everyone would be doing it.  It’s a difficult, and often long journey to get on a show.

It took me four years to get on Reality TV.  It didn’t happen overnight.  It will sting a lot when you get that rejection.  It took me a while to get over it. It was painful and very confusing at times, but I’m glad I moved forward.

If I never got past the multiple rejections I received in casting, I never would have made it on the show, or won $500,000.

You will question if you have what it takes to even be on the show.   You will get over this in time.

The most important thing is, once you get over it, what are you going to do about it?  And how can you come back stronger?

Milk the Call/E-Mail for Information

As devastated as you will be when you get the call or e-mail, re-focus and try to get at least one piece of information to help you the next time you apply.

The casting personnel understands how hard it is to get the rejection call.

You have a shot to get some sympathy information from them by asking them a simple question:

“What is one thing you think I can do better next time?”

If they don’t answer, or don’t give you a straight answer, respectfully challenge them on it.  Tell them how big of a dream it is for you to get on the show and that you would really appreciate their brutal honesty.

Whatever response they provide, remember it.  Whether it is true or not, this will become your motivation to come back stronger the second time around.

After you get the information you need, thank them again for the opportunity and let it go.

Don’t show any desperation in your voice by asking if there is anything else you can do to get on this season.  Tell them that you look forward to seeing them again next season and guarantee them you will be applying again.

The casting personnel will remember you and your persistence.  Applying multiple years in a row defines your drive to get on the show and can even become part of your future casting story.


Don’t Give Up

This article may have ticked you off, but I hope it doesn’t discourage you.

Most people will get the casting rejection and never apply again, that is good for you AS LONG AS you aren’t one of those people who give up.

Keep applying and improving your casting game.  That way, when you finally make it, victory will be that much sweeter.

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{ 18 comments… read them below or add one }

Harvey Bowers April 28, 2012 at 1:15 am

Hey Dan, loved your season & I just found your site, I think it’s great! I went to the open casting call in New Orleans.I think it went well, but I over heard some people say they were going to a few more open calls.Do you think that will help or hurt there chances?


Dan Gheesling April 30, 2012 at 3:42 pm

Harvey – one open casting call will do. No need to go to multiple ones!


Colleen April 28, 2012 at 6:32 am

Hi Dan.

Reading the new article. Your words can apply to any goal or dream that someone is trying to reach. This article will appeal to any and everyone!. You did a good job!.
Say, how is it coming along getting the book on ITunes? Hope you don’t mind my asking. :) I know from Twitter you were having what sounded like possibly a pain in the neck day with it, a couple days ago. I hope things are looking better now. Always something right?. lol
Don’t worry. You’ll get there! :)
I know it! Keep uo the great work! ;)
Coll ;)

Colleen ;)


Dan Gheesling April 30, 2012 at 3:42 pm

The podcast should be on iTunes today!


Aaron H April 28, 2012 at 8:00 am

Hi Dan,

I know what its like to be rejected by these open casting calls. Unfortunately, I never get an e-mail/call telling me, “Thanks but no thanks.” Its always “If we choose you to move on in the casting process, you’ll hear back in a day or two.” I’d love to hear some brutal feedback from the casting people.

I always analyze what I did right and what I did wrong after every casting call. I take that info and then combine it with your advice. I consider every casting call a learning experience. I feel eventually I’ll put it all together and move further in the casting process. That won’t happen if I let rejection stop me from my dream.

Keep up the good work Dan!


Dan Gheesling April 30, 2012 at 3:43 pm

Aaron – keep after it man!!


Aaron H May 1, 2012 at 4:25 am

Hi Dan,

Is it true you’ll be at the Big Brother open casting call in Southfield, MI on May 8th? I just saw it posted on CBS’ site and CBS 62′s site confirmed you being at it.

Also, I read above where you said there’s no need to go to multiple casting calls. Wouldn’t going to multiple casting calls give you more experience and make you more comfortable doing them? Like if you do one and know you blew it, I don’t think that should be the end. If you can do another, perhaps you’ll learn from last time and do better.

I’ve gone to two BB casting calls in the last few weeks and may go to two more next week. I thought the more of them I do, the more comfortable I’d become. Also, I’ve talked to a different casting person each time. Am I wasting my time Dan?

Aaron H


Drew May 1, 2012 at 4:40 am

I think i know what to do now, thanks dude.


Keri May 17, 2012 at 5:28 pm

I recieved a phone call to come to a casting, but couldnt make it so I was sent an email that told me i needed to do a skype interview. later they emailed me and said you are a semi finalist but havent heard anything for about a week . what does that usually mean that you werent chosen? or are they still sorting through people.?


Dan Gheesling May 21, 2012 at 3:52 pm

Keri – shoot them a follow up e-mail and see where you are at!


Jeffrey Beesler June 29, 2012 at 3:58 am

Persistence is key to anything one wants to do. Whether it’s going on reality TV or getting a book published, nothing can be achieved if we throw in the towel. There was a point where I would have given up on my writing dream altogether. But then I went to my ten year high school reunion and people were asking me if I’d gotten any books published yet. (I wrote a lot of books back in high school, too.) I decided at that moment that my 20th year reunion wouldn’t go down the same way that the 10 year did. Now I’ve had my first novel published through Amazon.com and am very close to releasing my second one.

Keep up the good work motivating people, Dan! That episode of BB10 where you inspired April, Michelle, and Renny remains my top favorite episode because of how you motivate others. (Can you tell someone’s been watching BB reruns in preparation for BB14?)


Cassy August 3, 2012 at 8:13 am

Dear Dan or Dans wife,

Right now you are at BB14 doing awesome an awesome social game. I’ve got to say you are one of my favorites. Anyways to the point…I’m 16 years old and IT IS MY DREEEEEAM to get on a reality show when I get old enough to.. (MOST preferably big brother). I have a few questions. 1. I was wondering is it too early to start preparing? & 2. any advice I can do to get ready..3. if I live in a small town in Georgia..if i still live here at 21 & I don’t have money to travel to casting calls..what can I do about that. & finally 4. I heard you need an agent to get on BB? is that true. ‘

Thanks for taking the time to read if you do :)



Melissa September 22, 2012 at 1:52 pm

Dan, I’m such a big fan, and have been since I was 12 and you took home the $500,000 in season 10! I’m a huge fan, I’ve been watching Big Brother since I was 5, and I adore you. Hopefully one day, I can follow in your footsteps and win! Thanks for all the encouragement, you played a crazy, wonderful, psychological season and the jury was just too bitter to understand that.


Brendan Blackmore September 24, 2012 at 8:25 pm

Hey Dan jus finished whatching big brother 14 with you in it. What do you think was the hardest part of getting on the show and please explain thanks


Devin Caraway September 26, 2012 at 12:57 am

Hey Dan, I just wanted to say first off u played a great game in BB 14 and I think you are the best player to ever play BB! I’m only 15 but I am auditioning for BB as soon as I’m 21! Do you think the show will still be going by then? i sure hope so! I’ve learned a lot from what you have posted and I haven’t had the opportunity to read your book, but I hopefully will be able to soon! Your advice is great and it has really motivated me to audition for BB some day! Thanx for all you have done and keep it coming!


holly September 26, 2012 at 10:50 pm

hey Dan im holly I have a few Questions “When you got rejected were you really sad?”
“Once when you got on and won the money what was the biggest honor when you won after all the rejections or just getting on the show?” comment back or E-mail me at wright445holly@hotmail.com


Kelly Florida October 12, 2012 at 9:34 am

You played a good game and it’s always good to see a married couple support each other as you both did. I actually got to know much more about you this season w/all the interviews being done this season. She is just lovely. I do however have a few things I would like to get advice on from you. I am a BB lover as you and love the “GAME” of it. I was a semi finalist for season 5 because I am adopted and they were gona try to hook me up w/my birth family or something. Anyway, I don’t really want to ask everything on here. But I will ask you this, when applying should you be a super fan of Big Brother, should you know the game very well? I noticed that its mixed up, some come in knowing everything and some know nothing. It’s been 8 years since I applied, and I still want to get in that house, but I am getting older too. Anyway, I hope to hear back from ya. Kelly


Dan Gheesling October 14, 2012 at 1:45 pm

You’re never too old to enter the BB house! If you made it to Semi’s before you have what it takes, don’t give up!


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